WHO are they?
1. The Victim ~ It's always someone else's fault. They won't take responsibility for anything in their life.
3. The Narcissist ~ These are the takers. It's "me first" and the world is all about them. They want your money, your time ... and your energy. They can never seem to see your side of things. They are like a bull in a china closet ... they will shoot you in the back ... get a paper cut in the process and whine about the paper cut and how you caused it. So much drama ... so much trauma.
4. The Manipulator ~ Always complimenting you. They tell you how everything you do is wonderful, so much better than me ... can you do this for me?
6. The Split Personality ~ They are loving and happy and then on a dime they will be totally negative and angry. They feed off of anger and negative attention. They will speak to other people and pit them against you, just to see the negativity to get the attention. They don't want solutions, they just want the negative attention.
7. Purely Attention Seekers ~ These people want ... attention ... any type of attention. They talk and never listen. They love to tell stories which are often long winded and pointless. They will find any reason to keep you there. You try to get away, but very good at catching you.
Like Attracts ... Like!
What frequency are vampires on? LIke a tuning fork on a piano ... There's a HIGH C, C and LOW C are all on the same frequency. See above for "Other Frequency."
> Other Frequencies ... For example ... Same as other victims ... of course ... but also on ... on the same frequency as a hero. The Hero ... needs the Victim to use their energy ... and the Hero is on the same frequency as The Villain. The Victim, the Villain and the Hero are all three on the same frequency.
~ The same frequency of wealth is poverty. The mind attracts whatever you are focused on.
So he says "We need to change our frequency, let's say as the Hero" ... so is he saying that we are being controlled by the energy vampire." That doesn't seem right? Maybe ... just maybe we need to increase the energy and force we have to help other energy vampires to learn to use their energy in a better way ... rather than avoid them?
He Suggests 3 Things When Dealing With Stress:
1. Try To Fix ~ Can you fix / change the relationship?
2. Try To Change It ~
3. Try To Eliminate It ~ What if you can't get away from them ... a co-worker, a child, parent, spouse?
Strategies ...
1. The Victim ~ They want someone to listen to them and not to try to fix them. "If you as the hero fix their problem they will come up with another one ... and another one and another one ... because they are victims and that's what they do." Really?!?! So there is no fix / solution for them? "Set firm boundaries with them." Will that work? I'm not a trash can ... "You can't make me feel bad all the time."
NOTE: When you give up control of your feelings to someone else. When you're ready for a solution ... then come talk with me.
2. The Downer ~ Help them to focus on what they DO WANT vs. what they DON"T WANT. Do a little small talk and then move on. "Distance ourselves from them ... or confront them." It's interesting isn't it, where he talks about confrontation as if it's a bad thing. Also, it seems like he thinks the person has control of their behavior so they can control their behavior.
4. The Manipulator ~ Thank them and then say "No, I can't help you." ... OR ... Ask them to start doing things for you.
5. The Controller ~ Never tell them what to do? Just stick to the issues? What??? Hmmm ... does that never fix the issue with the person?
6. The Split Personality ~ Stay emotionally neutral and don't take sides. Hmmm ... does that never fix the issue with the person?