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1-1: About The Group / Podcast

" What Is This Group / Podcast About? How Can We Join The Podcast? 
Which Type Of People Will Gain The Most Value From This Podcast?"

What Is This Group / Podcast About?

This podcast explores the world of parenting, offering advice on navigating challenges and fostering strong family bonds. With practical tips and insights, we aim to support parents in their journey of raising happy and healthy children. Join us as we delve into strategies for effective communication, understanding, and overall well-being within the family dynamic.

How Can We Join The LIVE Podcast? 

To join the podcast, simply click the provided Zoom link every Friday at 5:30 AM Eastern Time. The discussion centers around improve parenting and handling challenges. Go to www.RavingFan.net to join live Zoom.

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People We Are Looking For?

This podcast is tailored for parents who want to enhance their relationships with their children and create a harmonious family life. If you're facing challenges or seeking greater happiness in your parenting journey, you've come to the right place. We discuss straightforward tips and strategies to improve communication, understanding, and overall family dynamics. Join us for supportive conversations and actionable advice on fostering a more joyful and fulfilling family life. Whether you're struggling with discipline or simply aiming for more happiness, we're here to assist you. Tune in and let's collaborate to strengthen your bond with your children and create a happier family environment.

Podcast for Parents & Families - Disfunction

Do you think your family is dysfunctional?

Is it possible that every family is dysfunctional? These are some of the most interesting podcasts in all of the Voices Of Integrity podcast library.

1-2: I Need Encouragement

"Learning how to be encouraged."

Harmony

I feel discouraged!

Are you a parent... or someone who cares about other parents?  This podcast will help any parent who is feeling stressed and pressured and know they need help.

What are the challenges parents are having and what is the solution to those challenges / problems?  ~ click here ~ to share. 

How can we be an encouragement to ourselves and other parents?
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~ The Amiable Personality ~ 
Conflict With Others

Imagine attaining your ideal life, discovering secrets to deeper harmony and connection in relationships. Recognize anyone caring, facing challenges with others taking advantage of their kindness?
Video Podcast In Progress

Summary:

Which of these four shapes would you tend to like the most?  A cube, a pyramid, a wavy line or a ball?   Which of these four things would cause you the most frustration in any area of life ... Out of Order, Out of Control, Boring / Not Fun, Conflict with others?  

If you chose the Ball and/or Conflict with Others, you likely will be the amiable personality.  What does that mean?  It may mean that one of your strengths might be your concern and compassion for people ... and maybe a weakness you may have is ... well ... your concern and compassion for people.  See ... our greatest strength, is often our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength misapplied.  It's taking our strength too far.   As we learn more about ourselves ... we better understand others as well.

Join the Life GPS web mobile app to learn more.

1-3: How Do I Solve My Problems?

"Do I really want to solve my problems?  Am I sure?"

Quality

I feel lonely!

Do you know a parent who is very knowledgeable, has wisdom, has a heart to help others and is willing to give 30 minutes of their time to do a podcast? Call 630.393.9909 and share who you think would be a great guest.  

Do you have a problem you feel you can't share for any reason and/or you have shared the problem with others and they don't seem to know the answer and/or their solutions don't work? ~ click here ~ to share.
Audio Podcast In Progress

~ The Analytic Personality ~ 
Pain: Out of Order

Picture designing your ideal life, defining it according to your preferences. Reflect on elements such as consistency, order, and a balanced existence with minimal commotion.
Video Podcast In Progress

Summary:

Which of these four shapes would you tend to like the most?  A cube, a pyramid, a wavy line or a ball?   Which of these four things would cause you the most frustration in any area of life ... Out of Order, Out of Control, Boring / Not Fun, Conflict with others?  

If you chose the Cube and/or Things Being Out Of Order, you may be the analytic personality.  What does that mean?  It may mean that one of your strengths might be you like to dot your i's and cross your t's and make sure things are done properly and in order ... and maybe a weakness you may have is ... well ... you like to dot your i's and cross your t's and make sure things are done properly and in order.  See ... our greatest strength, is often our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength misapplied.  It's taking our strength too far.   As we learn more about ourselves ... we better understand others as well.

Join the Life GPS web mobile app to learn more.

1-4: How Do I Get People To Listen To Me?

"What if ... I have to talk less to get people to listen to me more?

Excitement

I feel lost.

Do you know a parent who may have some interest in helping others in their parents  and is willing to give 30 minutes of their time to do a podcast? Call 630.393.9909 and share who you think would be a great guest.

Do you have a problem you feel you can't share for any reason and/or you have shared the problem with others and they don't seem to know the answer and/or their solutions don't work? ~ click here ~ to share.
Audio Podcast In Progress

The Expressive Personality  
Pain: Boring / Not Fun

Envision fostering profound connections in your relationships. Identify the essential steps to achieve the depth you desire and consider the efforts you and others must invest.
Video Podcast In Progress

Summary:

Which of these four shapes would you tend to like the most? A cube, a pyramid, a wavy line or a ball? Which of these four things would cause you the most frustration in any area of life ... Out of Order, Out of Control, Boring / Not Fun, Conflict with others?

If you chose the Wavy Line and/or Things Being Boring / Not Fun, you may be the expressive personality. What does that mean? It may mean that one of your strengths might be your energy, excitement and enthusiasm ... and maybe a weakness you may have is ... well ... your energy, excitement and enthusiasm.  See ... our greatest strength, is often our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength misapplied. It's taking our strength too far. As we learn more about ourselves ... we better understand others as well.

Join the Life GPS web mobile app to learn more.

1-5: How Do I Drive People Forward?

How Do I Drive My Love Forward?

Growth

I feel misunderstood

Do you know a parent who is powerful, has guts, are creative thinkers, a heart to help others and are willing to give 30 minute of their time to do a podcast? Call 630.393.9909 and share who you think would be a great guest.

Do you have a problem you feel you can't share for any reason and/or you have shared the problem with others and they don't seem to know the answer or their solutions don't work? ~ click here ~ to share.
Audio Podcast In Progress

~ The Driver Personality ~ 
Pain:  Out Of Control

Imagine experiencing vibrant and impactful connections, fostering relationships that channel your drive and love. Envision a supportive environment that empowers both you and those around you to reach your fullest potential.
Video Podcast In Progress

Summary:

Which of these four shapes would you tend to like the most? A cube, a pyramid, a wavy line or a ball? Which of these four things would cause you the most frustration in any area of life ... Out of Order, Out of Control, Boring / Not Fun, Conflict with others?

If you chose the Pyramid and/or Things Being Out Of Control, you may be the driver  personality. What does that mean? It may mean that one of your strengths might be your drive, assertiveness, you make things happen ... and maybe a weakness you may have is ... well ... your drive, assertiveness, you make things happen.  See ... our greatest strength, is often our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength misapplied. It's taking our strength too far. As we learn more about ourselves ... we better understand others as well.

Join the Life GPS web mobile app to learn more.

1-6: How Do I Change Myself?

How Do I Change Myself According To The Situation?

Action

I feel misunderstood

Do you know a  parent who is listner, understanding, make sacrifices for one another, has a heart to help others and are willing to give 30 minute of their time to do a podcast? Call 630.393.9909 and share who you think would be a great guest.

Do you have a problem you feel you can't share for any reason and/or you have shared the problem with others and they don't seem to know the answer or their solutions don't work? ~ click here ~ to share.
Audio Podcast In Progress

~ The Chameleon Personality ~ 

Envision a life of intense and powerful parent, where your drive propels you to help not only yourself but also those around you reach their fullest potential.
Video Podcast In Progress

Summary:

Which of these four shapes would you tend to like the most? A cube, a pyramid, a wavy line or a ball? Which of these four things would cause you the most frustration in any area of life ... Out of Order, Out of Control, Boring / Not Fun, Conflict with others?

If you chose the Pyramid and/or Things Being Out Of Control, you may be the driver  personality. What does that mean? It may mean that one of your strengths might be your drive, assertiveness, you make things happen ... and maybe a weakness you may have is ... well ... your drive, assertiveness, you make things happen.  See ... our greatest strength, is often our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength misapplied. It's taking our strength too far. As we learn more about ourselves ... we better understand others as well.

Join the Life GPS web mobile app to learn more.

2-1: Why will Life GPS mobile web app help me?

Are you looking for answers / solutions?

What challenges are you currently encountering in your life or relationships? If someone were to offer assistance, what specific areas in your life or relationships would you appreciate help with the most?
People globally are embracing a free mobile web app to gain deeper self-understanding and insights into their relationships. This tool facilitates unity, allowing individuals to come together with a shared purpose and vision, pursuing not only shared experiences but also their personal dreams. The app instills hope for meaningful connections and excitement for realizing their aspirations.
Analytic

Out Of Order

Are you drawn to the cube and/or do you not like when things aren't done properly and in order?  Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn to better connect with others you may be frustrated with.

"Ready, Aim ... check, check check."

Driver

Out Of Control

Are you drawn to the Pyramid and/or do you dislike when things are out of control?  Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn how to help others to learn to control their own lives so you don't have to clean up after others.

"Fire, Aim ... 'Are we ready?'"

Amiable

Conflict With Others

Are you drawn to the Ball and/or do you dislike conflict with others?  Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn how not to fear conflict.

"Are we all ready?  Are we sure?"

Expressive

Boring / Not Fun

Are you drawn to the Wavy Line and/or do you dislike things which are boring or not fun?  Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn how to have more fun in your life.

"We're ready!  Fire ... Aim?"

2-2: Ask Your Question Here...

Ask Your Question / Thought and/or Problem Here ... 

Would you like a volunteer to connect with you?

Share Your Experiences Here...

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The Voices of Integrity Podcast caters to visionary individuals, covering a wide range of diverse subjects.

2-3: What You Will Experience On This Podcast:
How To LEVERAGE Talents
How do we LEVERAGE in a positive way, everyone in our lives for mutual benefit?

How To LEVERAGE Systems
How do we build the right systems to LEVERAGE our passions, our life vision and all other systems for success?
How To LEVERAGE Networks
Are you LEVERAGING your networks and the networks of those around you for everyone's mutual success?  
Voices Of Integrity . . . It is being designed and engineered to help you deeply understand "INTEGRITY".  

2-4: Personality Types & Mental Health

The questions we ask, the questions we answer, how we answer the questions and what questions we tend to try to ignore tell us a great deal about ourselves and may reveal a great deal about how our mental health is currently and will be in the future.  

We all have been given our personalities ... "Our Bent" from  how we were created in the womb,  through how we were raised and our life experiences. 

The diagram to the right reveals what some of the common mental health issues are with each personality type.  

Hmmm ... this is interesting, isn't it?  Imagine ... learning about how we could identify our mental health challenge BEFORE they brought great harm to us and those around us.

What if ... we're thinking about mental health in the wrong way?

What if how we think causes us pain, hurt and trauma ... actually gives us energy, power and passion?  

What if ... The Amiable actually enjoys conflict because it gives them a chance to be a peacemaker and the Analytic loves when things are done wrong, as it gives them a chance to be a hero?  What if the Expressive loves boring as it gives them a chance to show how exciting they are and the Driver loves when things get out of control because is gives them a chance to fix problems?  

Take a look at the above list and see which one's we may see in ourselves and what this self-awareness may mean to us, our spouse and those around us.

Think about it ... "Does it seem that with each possible weakness" mental health issue that there is an opposite strength that goes along with this weakness?"   If this was the case, what would this mean?  

Might it mean that our greatest strength is our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength taken too far?  If this were the case, why would we take a strength and take it too far?   Is it possible that, we are given strengths ... we value those strengths for some period of time but then pride / ego seep in and we think we're the reason for the strength?  Is it possible that this happens without us even realizing it ... where it sneaks up on us ... and we get prideful / overconfident and then crash and burn?"

Is it possible that we are a poor stewards of what we have been give?   

The Amiable Personality Type

"What Questions Does The Amiable Not Like Asked?"

Peace & Harmony

Strength & Weakness


We Tend To ... 
* Care for people.
* Are nice to others.
* Love peace and seek to avoid conflicts.
* Enjoy being around people.
* Serving others.
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Amiable
Chose the ball
   ~ Does not like conflict 

If you chose the ball and/or you chose that you don't like conflict then you likely are what we refer to as an Amiable.

Questions the Amiable Does Not Like To Hear

  • Why do you lack self-awareness?
  • Do you really think you are a caring person?
  • Do you realize you create more conflict by avoiding it?
  • Do you care that I feel that you care more about others than you do me, based on how nice you treat others, even when it hurts me / us?
We as amiable personalities tend to like questions which reveal how nice, kind and loving we are.  We tend to not like questions which challenge the way we think about ourselves.  
What No One Teaches Us ... 
As a spouse who is amiable, we tend to tell people what they like to hear, what feels good to people and that results in others telling us what we want to hear.  We don't treat our spouse like we treat others and that can build a lot of resentment in our spouses.  

What Benefit Would I Gain?  How Does It Work?

The Life GPS mobile web app serves as a valuable tool for individuals dedicated to supporting the community. It's a free resource that takes just 17 seconds for the assessment and a minute to register.

Individuals with an amiable personality will appreciate how the app assists in reducing stress, resolving conflicts in both personal and marital aspects, preventing others from taking advantage, and effectively handling challenging personalities. 

Life GPS contributes to fostering understanding, wisdom, grace, and forgiveness within marriages and families. Its positive impact extends to interactions with spouses, children, family, friends, and co-workers in every aspect of life.

This Podcast will encourage you and help you heal!!!

The Analytic Personality Type

"What Questions Does The Analytic Personality Tend To Like Have Asked?"

Done In Good Order

Strength & Weakness


We Tend To ... 
* Be strong in our knowledge to relationships.
* Enjoy teaching others.
* Have strength in studying & learning things.
* Enjoy explaining things to others.
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Analytic
Chose the cube
   ~ Don't like things being done wrong.

If you chose the cube and/or you chose that you don't like when things aren't done properly or in order you likely are the analytic personality.  

Questions the Analytic Does Not Like To Hear

  • How much of the knowledge you have actually helps us?
  • How can someone know so much and understand so little?
  • Do you understand how self righteous you are and how much better you think you are than others around you?
  • Why is your ego so very big and how in the world can you not see that? 
We as analytic personalities tend to like questions which reveal how smart and intelligent we are.  We tend to not like questions which challenge the way we think about ourselves. 
What No One Teaches Us ... 
While there isn't anything wrong with these questions, what brain science teaches us is that often we as analytics literally get a dopamine hit in our brain which makes us feel good because we feel smart ... and that can lead to pride and the other mental health issues that we often have build up over the years.  

What Benefit Would I Gain?  How Does It Work?

The Life GPS mobile web app serves as a valuable tool for individuals dedicated to supporting the community. It's a free resource that takes just 17 seconds for the assessment and a minute to register.

Individuals with an anaylic personality will appreciate how the app assists in reducing stress, resolving conflicts in both personal and marital aspects, preventing others from taking advantage, and effectively handling challenging personalities.

Life GPS contributes to fostering understanding, wisdom, grace, and forgiveness within marriages and families. Its positive impact extends to interactions with spouses, children, family, friends, and co-workers in every aspect of life.

This Podcast will encourage you and help you heal!!!

The Expressive Personality Type

"What Questions Does The Expressive Personality Tend Not To Like?"

Done With Energy

Strength & Weakness


We Tend To ... 
* Be strong in energy and passion.
* Enjoy seeing others feel and join in success. 
* Have strengths in being outgoing and creating excitement with others
* Able to motivate and inspire others to do things that people never thought possible.
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Expressive
Chose the wavy line
   ~ Don't like things which are boring or not fun

If you chose the wavy line and/or you chose that you don't like when things are boring or not fun then you are likely the the expressive personality.  

Questions the Expressive Tends Not To Like

  • Why do you think you have such low self esteem, self image that you have to always be the center of attention?
  • Why do you have to make a joke out of everything?
  • Why does everything have to be fun and why do I get stuck doing all the things you don't enjoy doing? 
  • Why aren't you able to feel anyone else's pain / feelings / energy than your own?
What No One Teaches Us ... 
While there isn't anything wrong with these questions, what brain science teaches us is that often we as expressive literally get a dopamine hit in our brain which makes us feel good because we feel funny, important, the center of attention ... and that can lead to narcissism and the other mental health issues that we often have build up over the years.  

What Benefit Would I Gain?  How Does It Work?

The Life GPS mobile web app serves as a valuable tool for individuals dedicated to supporting the community. It's a free resource that takes just 17 seconds for the assessment and a minute to register.

Individuals with an expressive personality will appreciate how the app assists in reducing stress, resolving conflicts in both personal and marital aspects, preventing others from taking advantage, and effectively handling challenging personalities.

Life GPS contributes to fostering understanding, wisdom, grace, and forgiveness within marriages and families. Its positive impact extends to interactions with spouses, children, family, friends, and co-workers in every aspect of life.

This Podcast will encourage you and help you heal!!!

The Driver Personality Type

"What Questions Does The Driver Personality Tend Not To Like?"

Very Driven!

Strength & Weakness


We Tend To ... 
* Be very strong in doing what others aren't willing or able to do.  Do the impossible.
* Willing to confront things which are wrong.
* Great at seeing a very large vision.
* Strong in taking risks.
* Very direct / honest with people. 
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Driver
Chose the pyramid 
   ~ Don't like when things are out of control

If you chose the pyramid and/or you chose that you don't like when things are out of control then you are likely the driver personality.  

Questions the Driver Tends Not To Like

  • How can you be so clear on your goals and you seem to be unable to even see the goals that I want in life?
  • Why are you always so mean to everyone ... and you don't even seem to care? 
  • Why do you think people are so stupid?
  • Why can't you just be nice to people?
  • Why do you always have to be doing something / accomplishing something?  
Actually ... the sad truth may be that the driver personality may not mind these questions as they get them from a lot of people in their lives and kind of build up a tolerance.  This could be good or bad, it just depends.  
What No One Teaches Us ... 
While there isn't anything wrong with these questions, what brain science teaches us is that often we as the driver personality, get a dopamine hit in our brain when things get out of control and we become a superhero ... which is not always bad but can be bad at times.  Does it cause mental health issues in us or maybe it creates mental health issues, that often build up over the years, in others? 

What Benefit Would I Gain?  How Does It Work?

The Life GPS mobile web app serves as a valuable tool for individuals dedicated to supporting the community. It's a free resource that takes just 17 seconds for the assessment and a minute to register.

Individuals with an driver personality will appreciate how the app assists in reducing stress, resolving conflicts in both personal and marital aspects, preventing others from taking advantage, and effectively handling challenging personalities.

We as driver personalities can, at times, push people too hard and too fast ... at least that's what others think.  The driver personality often feels they need to push others as others aren't pushing themselves.   

Life GPS contributes to fostering understanding, wisdom, grace, and forgiveness within marriages and families. Its positive impact extends to interactions with spouses, children, family, friends, and co-workers in every aspect of life.

This Podcast will encourage you and help you heal!!!

Quantum Feeling Model

Are feelings important?   Of course they are ... but, maybe not the way we think they are.  Think about it ... when we have physical pain, what do we learn from that physical pain?   We learn that there is something that is not right with us.  Physical pain doesn't reveal that something is wrong with others, it represents that something is wrong with us.  

If feelings and emotions are similar to physical, in the mental world, then our feelings don't reveal things about others, but feelings reveal something that is wrong or maybe "off" with us.

Are we seduced by entitlement?   Did we think life was going to be easy?  Do we think that we're nice to everyone else so others should be nice to us?  

Do we think people should be treated a certain way ... (Amiable) and you know, that way is the way that we think people should be treated?  The way we think others should be treated?  Which when you think about it that way, our entitlement falls into self-righteousness where we think we're smarter, better, more caring or loving than others.

If this doesn't get what we want, then we seem to fall into being a victim.   When we think about it ... we as adults, it seems, often are no different than small children.  

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Hmmm ... that would be self-righteousness.  Do we seek evidence, everywhere to support our perspective and in doing so, reveal that our hearts are the same as those we tend to think we see in others?  Do we slip into being self-righteous ... where we feel, and don't even realize that we're feeling entitlement and self-righteousness which often quickly leads to being a victim?   

What are the results of these three feelings?  Depression, anger and bitterness.  

What are the vaccines to each of the three of these?

Entitlement ~ Thankfulness ... When we are thankful it helps us to see all the amazing blessings that we have.  We don't become self-centered or consumed and thankfulness will prevent us from moving into Self-Righteousness.

Self-Righteousness ~ Humility ... Saying we are humble doesn't make us humble.  Often ... those we think are the most humble who act humble, may be the most self-righteous and those who seem like the are the most arrogant might be, the most humble.  A lot of people feel good about what we do and we feel good ... feeling so many feelings and that often leads to being self-righteous when someone questions us or asks us a hard question.  

Victim ~ Ownership ... How many times, do we struggle with taking personal ownership and feel that others have hurt us, been unfair to us and never even ask what they did to hurt us?  We often surround ourselves with people, who will tell us what we want to hear and tell our side of the story and poison or destroy those around us who dare to question or challenge us.  

How Various Personalities Are Vulnerable

Analytic ~ Cube & "Out Of Order"

Vulnerable to being OCD, fixated on the smallest details and miss the big picture.  Can be defensive, have challenges in taking ownership and often struggles with ego & self-righteousness.

Driver ~ Pyramid & "Out Of Control"

Vulnerable to being perceived as being abusive, controlling and overly aggressive.  Can overreact to their perception of things being out of control and often do not realize how powerful they can come across to others.  Often these personalities are the most vulnerable but seem like they are the least vulnerable.  

Expressive ~ Wavy Line & "Boring and/or Not Fun"

Vulnerable to being a bit crazy, doing risky things, coming across as flippant, dismissive and cocky.  Vulnerable to making rash decisions, making mistakes due to not having all the details.

Amiable ~ Ball & "Conflict With Others"

Vulnerable to being taken advantage of and taking advantage of others and not realizing it.  Due to fear of conflict they can make things far worse because they do not address things quickly.  So focused on people that often tasks don't get done and/or allowing people to take advantage of use and those around us.

How Do We Change At A Heart Level?

How do we know we truly understand?  We DO ... We Change!

Internalization ~ The deep feeling or sense, the embedding of something directly into our very DNA.  
We are seeking to work together to learn how to help people / couples to INTERNALIZE things faster.  The faster we INTERNALIZE things, the faster we achieve CLARITY as to the type of marriage we both desire, the faster we SEE success, the faster we learn to THINK differently and the faster we DO, or take action.  
Internalization
Often, in our marriage, we say "I get it" when in fact we actually think we get it, but we really do not.  What individuals are missing is the Natural Law of The NEXT Dimension Principle.  It helps us to SEE that "Yes" we do "get it" at our current way of thinking but there is a whole new dimension, The NEXT Dimension where if we are humble or curious like a small child we will jump through the Dimensional GAP that maybe one spouse senses or feels the marriage is in, but the other one does not.  
If we are the type of spouse that TALKS a lot ... has a lot of words, says a lot of things ... well ... we may be a talker and not a DOER and that can burn out a marriage.  Often these types of spouses, just wear down their spouse ... give the impression to others they are working so hard, trying so much and think they change, but maybe not very much.  If the marriage does end, these types of people will become a victim and work to get everyone on their side to feel sorry for the person.  They will then become self-righteous, as they act humble, use a lot of words which they think convey humility and actually eventually believe it in their hearts ... but maybe not so much.  What they never seem to realize, to be able to internalize is that they are entitled and share a lot of words, every chance they get to help their spouses to see that "Mistakes were made ... but not by me."
Another good book is "Stop Walking on Eggshells" and helps to understand Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD.  What's interesting is that the spouse who has the BPD will almost never read the book.  It's like ... they have imposter syndrome ... and somehow, in their minds, they believe that is a good thing and have data to back it up.  Meanwhile the BPD's spouse continues to suffer and questions if they are the one who has the issues.  The BPD is a master and the 9 D's to distraction of others.   ~ click here ~ 
Time Wasters
We waste so much time in this area ... and never even think about it.  

What is it?   

It's the words we speak.
When we learn to be intentional as to WHAT and WHY we are saying something and actually give consideration to if what we are saying has value or if there was something better we could share ... we will see our lives change.
If you say ... "That seems like a lot of work." or "That doesn't sound fun" ... well ... not to be harsh but if we think this, we may both be lazy and selfish.
People who are lazy and selfish tend to have challenges in having deep relationships and often are not very happy and feel they are not fulfilled.   The reason we have feelings like this ... is ... well ... because it's often true.  Taking medication may help to change the feelings ... but doesn't do anything to change the truth.  We can feel good, in the short term ... but we are still lazy and selfish.
"10 Reasons Why Someone Talks"
We as human beings often seem to not think about the words we use to speak or why we are saying what we are saying.  We waste words and often talk about things that have very little value.   
  • 1. Clueless ~ Don’t actually know why they are talking. They just talk.
  • 2. Ego ~ To impress others. To make themselves feel or look good.
  • 3. Seduce ~ People want to seduce you into thinking the way they think.
  • 4. Educate ~ People don’t think you know what they know so they feel a need to explain.
  • 5. Connect ~ People feel more connected by talking so they talk more to be more connected.
  • 6. Move ~ People want you to move from one place / way of thinking to where they are.
  • 7. Insecure ~ They talk to gain confidence or at least perceived confidence.
  • 8. Thinking ~ People feel they need to talk to think. Not the most effective way to think.
  • 9. Destruction ~ The 9 D’s to the path destruction. They are headed there and will lead you.
  • 10. Intention ~ To accomplish something very specific with everything they say.

Does It Bother You ... 

Does it bother you when people answer questions you never asked and or don't answer the questions you do ask?

Why do people do this?

1. Poor Listening
What's interesting is that people often don't even hear the question you ask.  TIP:  Stop them and ask them if they heard the question you asked.
2. Fear
People often fear that if they answer your question, it will reveal something about themselves that they do not want you /others to know.  TIP:  Say ... "Hmmm, that's interesting ..." and then ask the same question again.  
3. Arrogance 
Often people think that they know more than you do and give you an answer to a question they think is a better question than you asked.   TIP: Maybe say ... "Wow that's a great answer to a different question than I asked ... so ... what ... (ask the question again)."
5. Low EQ
Low EQ (emotional quotient) is Emotional Intelligence where people give you a low level answer to a question you never asked.   TIP: Maybe just smile and say "Thanks."   
6. Sphere Of Influence
Often people who explain themselves, give a lot of details when we are asking a "Yes" or "No" question.  This indicates they are often surrounded by people who need explanation / lower level answers and they are just used to that.  
Maybe Try ... 
Try to have a bit of fun with people and ... ask them  the question that they already gave the answer to.  :-)  What's the strange ... is that they often won't answer the question they already answered.
Maybe try ... "Did you realize you didn't answer the question that I asked?"

"Any idea why?"
Remember ... and give some room as most people asking questions ... also have no real intention behind the question so people aren't used to someone actually caring if they answered a question.

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