Voices of Integrity
PODCAST
1-1: About The Group / Podcast
" What Is This Group / Podcast About? How Can We Join The Podcast? Which Type Of People Will Gain The Most Value From This Podcast?"
What Is This Group / Podcast About?
As a white male over 50, what are your biggest challenges? If someone ... anyone ... could help you in any area of your life, what would you LOVE help on?
This podcast is designed specifically for white males over 50 who are navigating various aspects of life.We talk about stuff that matters to you and give helpful advice to make your life better. Listen in to learn how to handle relationships, make big decisions, and find happiness in your life and work.
How Can We Join The LIVE Podcast?
To join the podcast, simply click the provided Zoom link every Wednesday at 3 PM Eastern Time. The discussion centers around improving marriages and handling challenges. Go to www.RavingFan.net to join live Zoom.
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People We Are Looking For?
Are you struggling with finding the right people for your team? Are you having trouble keeping up with consistent income? Do you find it hard to keep your employees motivated and productive?
This podcast is for white males over 50 who want to excel in their roles as leaders and managers in various areas of life.
If you're facing challenges or seeking to improve your leadership skills, you're in the right place. We discuss practical strategies and valuable insights to help you overcome obstacles and thrive in your personal and professional endeavors. Join us for honest discussions and expert advice on managing relationships, making important life decisions, and finding fulfillment in your daily activities. Whether you're struggling with managing your household or seeking greater satisfaction in your retirement years, we're here to support you. Tune in and let's work together to make your life journey more fulfilling and rewarding.
1. Patrick & Mark Just Getting Warmed Up
What Do We Need To Hear?
What is it about White Males Over 50 Years Old that makes them so uninteresting that no one wants to study them ... but everyone seems to blame them for ... everything ... and they don't seem to care? Why is that?
2. Being Married ... For 40+ years
What Do We Need To Hear?
What's the secret to Patrick and Mark both being married for over 40 years? Mark and Patrick are both very confident that you'll wonder what's wrong with their wives to be married to two nutcases like these guys. If you were to ask their wives ... are these guys both as obnoxious at home as they are on the podcast ... and both wives would say in unison ... "Worse! Much worse!"
3. Children ... a lot of children!
What Do We Need To Hear?
What are the secrets to being a successful dad? Patrick has six children, five boys and one girl. Mark has seven children, four girls and three boys. The stories ... So many crazy stories! It's strange where Mark and Patrick's wives and children have been a lot nicer since they started this podcast. Interesting ... most interesting.
7. Patrick's Wife & A Lot Of People Wonder ...
What Do We Need To Hear?
Why do you hang out with Mark? One of Mark's favorite sayings is ... "When your life vision is bigger than death ...you get over stuff." Mark has social autism ... yes that is a thing and he is one strange dude, but hear him out. When he offends you, don't get mad like his wife and children do. Just ask him why he thinks like that. You may still not agree with him, but at least he thinks about what he feels, thinks and does ... and will change his perspective if it makes sense to. ~ Discover Your Life Vision And Let's Talk ~ click here ~
Introduction & Vision
" Do you know any White Male over 50 years old? (WM50+) Are you one of them yourselves? As a WM50+, do you ever feel that you are not appreciated or valued ... even by those who are closest to you? Do you ever get the feeling that the media / world is saying that every problem in the world is the responsibility of the WM50+ ? "
Intro
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Do you know any White Male over 50 years old? (WM50+) Are you one of them yourselves? As a WM50+, do you ever feel that you are not appreciated or valued ... even by those who are closest to you? Do you ever get the feeling that the media / world is saying that every problem in the world is the responsibility of the WM50+ ?
On the other side, are you not a WM50+ and you've been hurt or abused by a WM50+? What's interesting is that it feels to the WM50+ that no one cares about them and they are misunderstood. What's strange is that many of them don't seem to mind. What is that?
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If you're in business, in America and most places around the world, if you were to learn more about the WM50+ it would serve you career / business well. What's interesting, it seems, is that the WM50+ doesn't seem to have a lot of people / groups saying a lot of positive things about them and/or recognition and that's a shame as they really do have some amazing experiences and wisdom.
Yes, there's a lot of bad things they have done, but also a lot of good things, as it would seem with any group of people. Trust us, regardless of your age and/or your gender, you'll find this podcast to be very entertaining and informational as well.
Podcast For WM50+ - Amiable
" Are you a WM50+ and/or do you know a WM50+ who is the nicest person in the world and seems to get along with everyone? "
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Any Idea?
Are you a WM50+ and/or do you know a WM50+ who is the nicest person in the world and seems to get along with everyone? Maybe their greatest strength may be their concern and compassion for people ... and maybe their greatest weakness is their concern / compassion for people?
This personality is a most interesting personality type and there are some interesting surprises which make this a great podcast to know.
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Amiable Personality
Are you or someone you care about feeling stressed and pressured? This podcast aims to support individuals experiencing these challenges.
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Analytic Likes Small Details?
Are you aware of someone analytical with knowledge, wisdom, organizational skills, attention to detail, and a penchant for thinking they're always right?
If he can spare 30 minutes for a podcast, call 630.393.9909 and suggest him as a potential guest.
Do you have a confidential problem you can't share or have sought advice elsewhere without success?
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Analytical Personality
Are you aware of someone analytical with knowledge, wisdom, organizational skills, attention to detail, and a penchant for thinking they're always right? Call 630.393.9909 and share who you think would be a great guest.
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Sales Person?
Their dynamic communication style captivates customers, fostering rapport and trust. They effortlessly convey enthusiasm, making products/services more enticing. Quick thinkers, they adapt to diverse personalities, tailoring pitches effectively. Their ability to build connections often turns potential clients into loyal customers. In sales, the art of conversation becomes a powerful tool for success. For valuable insights, tune in and learn even more from this podcast!
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1-6: How Do I Change Myself?
How Do I Change Myself According To The Situation?
Action
I feel misunderstood
Do you know a Wm50+ who is listner, understanding, make sacrifices for one another, has a heart to help others and are willing to give 30 minute of their time to do a podcast? Call 630.393.9909 and share who you think would be a great guest.
Do you have a problem you feel you can't share for any reason and/or you have shared the problem with others and they don't seem to know the answer or their solutions don't work? ~ click here ~ to share.
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~ The Chameleon Personality ~
Imagine ... having the craziest powerful life. A life which will help you fully leverage all the drive and passion to help you and others around you be all you can be.
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~ Table Of Contents ~ Life GPS ~
1-7: The 14-Year-Old Busser, The Team You Never Built & The Flaw 62 Years In The Making
Questions?
On this episode of the Voices of Integrity Podcast, we unpack what it really means to be part of a team.
Not to benefit from one.
Not to borrow from one when it's convenient.
Not to show up when you feel like it and disappear when you don't.
The kind of team where a woman running on two hours of sleep, after a night of caring for a sick three-year-old, still shows up to the debrief — not because she had to.
Because we're a team. Mark breaks down the discovery that stopped him cold at 62 — that systems, tools, and people working in the same direction is not the same thing as a team — and why the difference between those two things may be the most important thing he's never known.
About a 14-year-old girl bussing tables at the Blue Gate on a packed summer night when her partner didn't show — and what that moment quietly taught her about what it means to let people down. About a retail store on Mother's Day weekend where the entire staff took the day off because they were women — and what it feels like to carry it all while being completely unable to be angry about being sick.
Audio Podcast
About a teenage boy watching a man tell his pastor father he couldn't come to church because it was family night — and knowing full well what that man was doing tomorrow. About why the people who explain why they can't are training their brains to never be able to. About what a passion circle looks like when you stop asking what you're passionate about — and start asking what it actually means to be on this team. About a grandfather's words to an eight-year-old that changed everything: there's always some percentage of truth in what someone says to you, and it's not their job to decide what that percentage is. It's yours.
Listen to the full podcast now.
Video Podcast
1-8: Heartbreak, Money & The Truth Nobody Wants To Say
What if the question isn’t why heartbreak songs are so popular…but why so many people want to stay in the pain?
What if it’s not just about music — but about a culture that rewards emotional drama, feeds it, profits from it… and never actually heals it?
And what if, as a white male over 50, the confusion isn’t ignorance — but seeing something others refuse to question?
Questions?
On this episode of the Voices of Integrity Podcast, we unpack what it really means to look at pain, emotion, and accountability — from a perspective that often gets dismissed.
Not to attack anyone.
Not to invalidate feelings.
But to ask the uncomfortable questions most people avoid.
Why is one person’s pain amplified… while another’s is ignored?
Why is heartbreak turned into profit… but rarely into growth?
And why does it feel like the system rewards staying broken instead of healing?
About a conversation sparked by songs — and what those songs really represent.About why heartbreak sells… and why it keeps repeating.
About whether people are truly learning from pain — or just reliving it over and over again.
About a man trying to understand a world where emotions are expressed freely — but not always equally.
And what it feels like when men’s pain is laughed at… while women’s pain is validated and monetized.
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Are people chasing healing — or just chasing the feeling?
Is the goal growth — or attention?
And at what point do we take ownership for the choices that keep leading to the same outcomes?
About why success (money) becomes the justification for everything.
And whether “it’s working” actually means it’s right.
About the difference between feeling something…
and actually doing something about it.
Listen to the full podcast now.
Video Podcast
1-9: Feelings, Dopamine & The Question Nobody Will Let You Ask
What if the reason people say they want the truth is the same reason they punish you for telling it? What if the amiable doesn't hate conflict — but starts fires quietly and lets the driver take the fall every single time? And what if growing so fast that nobody can map you out anymore is the loneliest and most important thing you'll ever do?
About whether the amiable personality chooses laziness in relationships so early and so quietly that it becomes indistinguishable from who they are.
About whether ex-Baptists and ex-Amish think they're taking the best of both worlds — when they might be taking the worst.
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Because when you're growing radically, most of what you're doing stops working.
And the people around you can't map you out anymore.
And they call that hard to be around.
When really — imagine being the one who is it.
Listen to the full podcast now.
Video Podcast
1-10: The Pathological Question, The Gray Area & The Price You Pay For Someone Else's History
What if admitting you almost became a pathological liar is the most honest thing a person can say? What if the question nobody asks — are you lying right now? — is the one question that actually builds trust? And what if the reason two people can't fully trust each other is because they're both paying for wounds someone else left behind?
Questions?
On this episode of the Voices of Integrity Podcast, we unpack what it really costs to tell the truth — and what it costs when you don't. Not in a courtroom. Not in a confession booth. In a podcast where a woman asked the question everyone was thinking — and a man actually sat with it.
And left with more questions than answers. About whether a pathological liar even knows they're lying. About whether joking around with a story is the same as lying.
Infinitely worse than lying. About whether trust, once it drops from a 10 to a 4, can actually climb back.
About whether the amiable personality tells half-truths so quietly and so consistently that it becomes invisible — even to themselves. About whether two people from completely different wounds can ever stop making each other pay for them.
Audio Podcast
Because when you're growing in honesty, most of what felt safe stops feeling safe. And the people around you can't predict you anymore. And they call that unsettling. When really — imagine being the one who is it.
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Video Podcast
What if the most dangerous blind spot isn't what you've done to others — but what you still carry from what they did to you? What if forgiveness isn't a feeling you arrive at but a fight you keep showing up to? And what if the person willing to ask whether you're even saved is the only friend actually worth keeping?
Questions?
On this episode of the Voices of Integrity Podcast, we unpack what it really costs to let something go — and what it costs everyone around you when you don't. Not in a counseling office. Not in a sermon. In a podcast where a woman looked at a man and said, "I have concerns about your salvation" — and he said, "Tell me more."
And left with more questions than answers. About whether talking about past hurt in a certain tone is the same as carrying it. About whether the church uses forgiveness as a weapon to silence accountability. About whether forgiving someone 70 times seven was ever meant to apply to a rapist — and who decided it wasn't.
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1-12: What if the woman you marry and the AI you use are running the same operating system?
Welcome to Voices of Integrity—your voice in my headset—where we dig into the real, messy, often uncomfortable truth about relationships.
Solution?
Today's conversation starts with a question nobody is asking out loud: What do artificial intelligence and the women in your life actually have in common — and what does that tell you about how you show up in relationships?
We get into what happens when confidence sounds like certainty but isn't — and why we keep trusting it anyway.
We explore what a woman's list of non-negotiables really reveals — not just about what she wants in a husband, but about what she believes she deserves.
Because knowing what you want is only half of it.
The harder question is: do you actually know what you mean by it?
This isn't a surface-level conversation. We talk about why people grow at different speeds in marriage, why opposites attract but also quietly resent each other, and what it actually looks like to build a list of standards you hold yourself to — not just your future spouse.
We also unpack something most people never hear in church: Why every personality type has its own version of idolatry — and why the version that looks the most righteous is often the most dangerous.
Why do we keep redefining what it means to love God based on our own personality — and call it theology?
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And what does it cost a marriage when one person is growing and the other one isn't — and nobody talks about it?
You'll hear raw questions, real scenarios, and perspectives that challenge the way we think about compatibility, self-awareness, and what it means to choose someone on purpose.
This episode might not give you easy answers — but it will give you better questions.
Video Podcast
1-13: What if the breakthrough you've been waiting for has been locked in a room you stopped entering at age 8?
Welcome to Voices of Integrity—your voice in my headset—where we dig into the real, messy, often uncomfortable truth about what it means to grow as a man.
Questions?
Today's conversation starts with a question most men never ask out loud: What if the pain you've been managing, avoiding, and working around isn't a character flaw — but a locked room you walked away from decades ago?
We get into what happens when a breakthrough feels like a victory — and then reveals something even harder underneath it. We explore what it really means when everything in your life — your business, your marriage, your kids — is actually interconnected, and how solving one unlocks the others.
We unpack why men shut their power plant off completely while the wound keeps running the house.
We also get into what it looks like to finally walk back into that room, turn on the lights, and let the younger version of you finish the story.
And what does it cost a man — and everyone around him — when he spends 67 years not knowing an 8-year-old is still making his decisions?
You'll hear raw questions, real moments, and perspectives that challenge the way we think about ego, healing, breakthroughs, and what it actually means to grow up — at any age.
This episode might not give you easy answers — but it will give you better questions.
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The harder question is: do you actually know which room is running your house? This isn't a surface-level conversation. We talk about why men block out memories and what it costs them long-term, why the first part of a breakthrough feels incredible and the second part feels devastating, and what it actually looks like to stop reacting as your younger self. We also unpack something most people never connect: Why the ratchet principle — two steps forward, three steps back — might have everything to do with a locked room you forgot you were avoiding. Why do we keep living around the pain instead of walking back through the door — and calling that strength?
Always remember — we can accomplish so much more together than we ever could on our own.
Listen to the full podcast now.
1-14: Are women actually difficult — or is that just the story nobody's been honest enough to tell out loud?
Welcome to Voices of Integrity—your voice in my headset—where we dig into the real, messy, often uncomfortable truth about what it means to grow as a man.
Solution?
Today's conversation starts with a question most people dance around but never actually answer: Are women difficult — and if they are, does that make it a problem or a gift?
We get into what happens when you stop seducing women with what they want to hear and start asking the questions nobody else will ask.
We explore what it really means when a boy is told he'll end up in prison — and why that same prediction either destroys him or builds something unbreakable.
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We also unpack something most people never say out loud: Why the women and children who are the hardest to raise are often the very ones that turn a boy into a man.
Why do we keep telling people what they want to hear — and then act surprised when they never grow past it?
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1-15: What if the most important thing a man will ever build isn't a business — it's the boys sitting at his table?
Welcome to Voices of Integrity—your voice in my headset—where we dig into the real, messy, often uncomfortable truth about what it means to grow as a man.
Solution?
Today's conversation starts with a question most men never stop long enough to ask: What does it actually take to raise a boy who doesn't become a miserable husband?
We get into what happens when a grandfather holds a two-week-old grandson and realizes the clock is already running — and the only question that matters is whether he's ready.
We explore what it really means to have a plan for your wife and children — not a vision you hand them.
One you build together so everyone's flying in the same direction.
We unpack why men surround themselves with buddies who are just like them — and why the blind leading the blind is exactly how good men stay stuck. We also get into what it looks like to stop performing in front of people and actually become the man your family needs when nobody's watching. And what does it cost a family when a father invests everything — and still wonders what he could have done differently? You'll hear raw questions, real stories, and perspectives that challenge the way we think about fatherhood, selfishness, accountability, and what it actually means to put your wife and children before your own wants. This episode might not give you easy answers — but it will give you better questions.The harder question is: do you know the difference between a man who talks about being a great father and one who actually has a written plan that holds him to it?
Audio Podcast
This isn't a surface-level conversation. We talk about why women seem more interested in building powerful sons than men do, why passion means nothing if you only show up when people are watching, and what it actually looks like to awaken yourself so you can awaken the people around you.
We also unpack something most men never hear until it's too late: Why getting married isn't optional if you want to stop becoming more selfish every single year — and why a miserable husband is the one thing no woman should ever have to survive.
Why do we keep waiting for someone else to build the next generation of men — and calling that someone else's job?
Video Podcast
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People around the country are finding this free mobile web app to assist them to better understand themselves and others around them, to "get into flow" and come together as one heart, one mind to be able to not only do life together, but to take everyone's God given passions and accomplish far more for the kingdom together than we ever could on our own.
Out Of Order
Are you drawn to the cube and/or do you not like when things aren't done properly and in order? Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn to better connect with others you may be frustrated with.
Out Of Control
Are you drawn to the Pyramid and/or do you dislike when things are out of control? Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn how to help others to learn to control their own lives so you don't have to clean up after others.
Conflict With Others
Are you drawn to the Ball and/or do you dislike conflict with others? Life GPS will help others to better understand you and you will learn how not to fear conflict.
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The Voices of Integrity Podcast caters to visionary individuals, covering a wide range of diverse subjects.
What You Will Experience On This Podcast:
How To LEVERAGE Talents
How do we LEVERAGE in a positive way, everyone in our lives for mutual benefit?
How To LEVERAGE Systems
How do we build the right systems to LEVERAGE our passions, our life vision and all other systems for success?
How To LEVERAGE Networks
You are LEVERAGING your networks and the networks for those around you for everyone's mutual success?
Voices Of Integrity . . . It is being designed and engineered to help you deeply understand "INTEGRITY".
Personality Types & Mental Health
Take a look at the above list and see which one's you may see in yourself and what this self-awareness may mean to you and those you are called by God to serve.
Think about it ... "Does it seem that with each possible weakness" mental health issue that there is an opposite strength that goes along with this weakness?" If this was the case, what would this mean?
Might it mean that our greatest strength is our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength taken too far? If this were the case, why would we take a strength and take it too far? Is it possible the God gives us our strengths ... we value those strengths for some period of time but then pride / ego seep in and we think we're the reason for the strength? Is it possible that this happens without us even realizing it ... where it sneaks up on us ... and as we take more and more credit for our God given strengths that God says ... "OK ... if you want to take ownership for a gift I've given you, you can do so ... and you'll reap the harvest of the weakness that comes as a result of you taking credit for something I have given you?"
Is it possible that we are a poor steward of God's gifts to us?
The Amiable Personality Type
"What Questions Does The Amiable Not Like Asked?"
Peace & Harmony
Strength & Weakness
We Tend To ...
* Care for people.* Are nice to others.
* Love peace and seek to avoid conflicts.
* Enjoy being around people.
* Serving others.
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AmiableChose the ball ~ Does not like conflict
If you chose the ball and/or you chose that you don't like conflict then you likely are what we refer to as an Amiable.
Questions the Amiable Does Not Like To Hear
- Why do you lack self-awareness?
- Do you really think you are a caring person?
- Do you realize you create more conflict by avoiding it?
- Do you care that I feel that you care more about others than you do me, based on how nice you treat others, even when it hurts me / us?
We as amiable personalities tend to like questions which reveal how nice, kind and loving we are. We tend to not like questions which challenge the way we think about ourselves.
What No One Teaches Us ...
The Analytic Personality Type
"What Questions Does The Analytic Personality Tend To Like Have Asked?"
Done In Good Order
Strength & Weakness
We Tend To ...
* Be strong in our knowledge to relationships.
* Enjoy teaching others.
* Have strength in studying & learning things.
* Enjoy explaining things to others.
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AnalyticChose the cube ~ Don't like things being done wrong.
If you chose the cube and/or you chose that you don't like when things aren't done properly or in order you likely are the analytic personality.
Questions the Analytic Does Not Like To Hear
- How much of the knowledge you have actually helps us?
- How can someone know so much and understand so little?
- Do you understand how self righteous you are and how much better you think you are than others around you?
- Why is your ego so very big and how in the world can you not see that?
We as analytic personalities tend to like questions which reveal how smart and intelligent we are. We tend to not like questions which challenge the way we think about ourselves.
What No One Teaches Us ...
While there isn't anything wrong with these questions, what brain science teaches us is that often we as analytics literally get a dopamine hit in our brain which makes us feel good because we feel smart ... and that can lead to pride and the other mental health issues that we often have build up over the years.
The Expressive Personality Type
"What Questions Does The Expressive Personality Tend Not To Like?"
Done With Energy
Strength & Weakness
We Tend To ...
* Be strong in energy and passion.
* Enjoy seeing others feel and join in success.
* Have strengths in being outgoing and creating excitement with others
* Able to motivate and inspire others to do things that people never thought possible.
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ExpressiveChose the wavy line ~ Don't like things which are boring or not fun
If you chose the wavy line and/or you chose that you don't like when things are boring or not fun then you are likely the the expressive personality.
Questions the Expressive Tends Not To Like
- Why do you think you have such low self esteem, self image that you have to always be the center of attention?
- Why do you have to make a joke out of everything?
- Why does everything have to be fun and why do I get stuck doing all the things you don't enjoy doing?
- Why aren't you able to feel anyone else's pain / feelings / energy than your own?
What No One Teaches Us ...
While there isn't anything wrong with these questions, what brain science teaches us is that often we as expressive literally get a dopamine hit in our brain which makes us feel good because we feel funny, important, the center of attention ... and that can lead to narcissism and the other mental health issues that we often have build up over the years.
The Driver Personality Type
"What Questions Does The Driver Personality Tend Not To Like?"
Very Driven!
Strength & Weakness
We Tend To ...
* Be very strong in doing what others aren't willing or able to do. Do the impossible.
* Willing to confront things which are wrong.
* Great at seeing a very large vision.
* Strong in taking risks.
* Very direct / honest with people.
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DriverChose the pyramid ~ Don't like when things are out of control
If you chose the pyramid and/or you chose that you don't like when things are out of control then you are likely the driver personality.
Questions the Driver Tends Not To Like
- How can you be so clear on your goals and you seem to be unable to even see the goals that I want in life?
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Why are you always so mean to everyone ... and you don't even seem to care?
- Why do you think people are so stupid?
- Why can't you just be nice to people?
- Why do you always have to be doing something / accomplishing something?
Actually ... the sad truth may be that the driver personality may not mind these questions as they get them from a lot of people in their lives and kind of build up a tolerance. This could be good or bad, it just depends.
What No One Teaches Us ...
While there isn't anything wrong with these questions, what brain science teaches us is that often we as the driver personality, get a dopamine hit in our brain when things get out of control and we become a superhero ... which is not always bad but can be bad at times. Does it cause mental health issues in us or maybe it creates mental health issues, that often build up over the years, in others?
Quantum Feeling Model
Are feelings important? Of course they are ... but, maybe not the way we think they are. Think about it ... when we have physical pain, what do we learn from that physical pain? We learn that there is something that is not right with us. Physical pain doesn't reveal that something is wrong with others, it represents that something is wrong with us.
If feelings and emotions are similar to physical, in the mental world, then our feelings don't reveal things about others, but feelings reveal something that is wrong or maybe "off" with us.
Do we as Individuals fall into entitlement? Do we think being a man was going to be easy? Do we think that we're nice to everyone else so others should be nice to us?
Do we think that God wants people to be treated a certain way ... (Amiable) and you know, that way is the way that we think people should be treated.
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Hmmm ... that would be self-righteousness. Do we find parts of the Bible to support our perspective and in doing so, and in doing so reveal that our hearts are the same as those we tend to think we see in others? Do we slip into being self-righteous ... where we feel, and don't even realize that we're feeling entitlement and self-righteousness which often quickly leads to being a victim.
What are the results of these three feelings? Depression, anger and bitterness.
What are the vaccines to each of the three of these?
Entitlement ~ Thankfulness ... When we are thankful we it helps us to see all the amazing blessings that we have and don't become self-centered / consumed and will prevent us from moving into Self-Righteousness.
Self-Righteousness ~ Humility ... Saying we are humble doesn't make us humble. In being men, it seems we have more challenges than the average person in keeping humble. Just being honest and transparent ... we get up on Sunday's and often preach what people like to hear and they come up and tell us how amazing we are and how the service touched their lives. A lot of people feel good about what we do and we feel good ... feelings so many feelings and that often leads to being self-righteous when someone questions us or asks us a hard question.
Victim ~ Ownership ... How many times as men do we struggle with taking personal ownership and feel that others have hurt us, been unfair to us and never even ask what we did to hurt them? We often, as men, surround ourselves with people, who will tell us what we want to here and tell ourside of the story and poison / destory those around us who dare to question or challenge us.
~ Table Of Contents ~ Life GPS ~
Analytic ~ Cube & "Out Of Order"
Vulnerable to being OCD, fixated on the smallest details and miss the big picture. Can be defensive, have challenges in taking ownership and often struggles with ego & self-righteousness.
Driver ~ Pyramid & "Out Of Control"
Vulnerable to being perceived as being abusive, controlling and overly aggressive. Can overreact to their perception of things being out of control and often do not realize how powerful they can come across to others. Often these personalities are the most vulnerable but seem like they are the least vulnerable.
Expressive ~ Wavy Line & "Boring and/or Not Fun"
Vulnerable to being a bit crazy, doing risky things, coming across as flippant, dismissive and cocky. Vulnerable to making rash decisions, making mistakes due to not having all the details.
Amiable ~ Ball & "Conflict With Others"
Vulnerable to being taken advantage of and taking advantage of others and not realizing it. Due to fear of conflict they can make things far worse because they do not address things quickly. So focused on people that often tasks don't get done and/or allowing people to take advantage of use and those around us.
How Do We Change At A Heart Level?
How do we know we truly understand? We DO ... We Change!
Internalization ~ The deep feeling or sense, the embedding of something directly into our very DNA.
Internalization
Time Wasters
We waste so much time in this area ... and never even think about it.
What is it?
It's the words we speak.
When we learn to be intentional as to WHAT and WHY we are saying something and actually give consideration to if what we are saying has value or if there was something better we could share ... we will see our lives change.
If you say ... "That seems like a lot of work." or "That doesn't sound fun" ... well ... not to be harsh but if we think this, we may both be lazy and selfish.
People who are lazy and selfish tend to have challenges in having deep relationships and often are not very happy and feel they are not fulfilled. The reason we have feelings like this ... is ... well ... because it's often true. Taking medication may help to change the feelings ... but doesn't do anything to change the truth. We can feel good, in the short term ... but we are still lazy and selfish.
"10 Reasons Why Someone Talks"
We as human beings often seem to not think about the words we use to speak or why we are saying what we are saying. We waste words and often talk about things that have very little value. - 1. Clueless ~ Don’t actually know why they are talking. They just talk.
- 2. Ego ~ To impress others. To make themselves feel or look good.
- 3. Seduce ~ People want to seduce you into thinking the way they think.
- 4. Educate ~ People don’t think you know what they know so they feel a need to explain.
- 5. Connect ~ People feel more connected by talking so they talk more to be more connected.
- 6. Move ~ People want you to move from one place / way of thinking to where they are.
- 7. Insecure ~ They talk to gain confidence or at least perceived confidence.
- 8. Thinking ~ People feel they need to talk to think. Not the most effective way to think.
- 9. Destruction ~ The 9 D’s to the path destruction. They are headed there and will lead you.
- 10. Intention ~ To accomplish something very specific with everything they say.
Does It Bother You ...
Does it bother you when people answer questions you never asked and or don't answer the questions you do ask?
Why do people do this?
1. Poor Listening
What's interesting is that people often don't even hear the question you ask. TIP: Stop them and ask them if they heard the question you asked.
2. Fear
People often fear that if they answer your question, it will reveal something about themselves that they do not want you /others to know. TIP: Say ... "Hmmm, that's interesting ..." and then ask the same question again.
3. Arrogance
Often people think that they know more than you do and give you an answer to a question they think is a better question than you asked. TIP: Maybe say ... "Wow that's a great answer to a different question than I asked ... so ... what ... (ask the question again)."
5. Low EQ
Low EQ (emotional quotient) is Emotional Intelligence where people give you a low level answer to a question you never asked. TIP: Maybe just smile and say "Thanks."
6. Sphere Of Influence
Often people who explain themselves, give a lot of details when we are asking a "Yes" or "No" question. This indicates they are often surrounded by people who need explanation / lower level answers and they are just used to that.
Maybe Try ...
Try to have a bit of fun with people and ... ask them the question that they already gave the answer to. :-) What's the strange ... is that they often won't answer the question they already answered.
Maybe try ... "Did you realize you didn't answer the question that I asked?"
"Any idea why?"
Remember ... and give some room as most people asking questions ... also have no real intention behind the question so people aren't used to someone actually caring if they answered a question.
Specific Topics
Developing Deep Relationships
" Are you seeking to develop deep relationships? Ken asked those on the live podcast some most interesting questions and the resources ... well ... we'll let you listen and decide. "
Innate Bond
Solution?
So ... what are your answers to the questions that Ken asks? Maybe what's even a more meaningful question, might be ... "How will you share your answers with and share this podcast with?"
Will you take notes and share those notes with others around you? Might there be others around you who might be interested in a deep relationship with you, but they won't unless you share the podcast with them? See ... when you share this type of podcast with others ... it's almost guaranteed that it will generate conversations and that's the first step to deep relationships.
Audio Podcast
What may surprise you even more is how fast a deep relationship can be developed. Join the live podcast, if you are able to ... and share how this podcast changed your life forever.
Video Podcast
5-2: Being A Leader
How do I internalize better as a leader? What do you do when there is no hope as a leader?
How do you see and be significant as a leader? How do I handle being compared to others who are not the best?
Leader
Solution?
Struggling with hopelessness? Find guidance to keep moving forward.
Discover tips to become a better leader by learning from within.
Learn how to stand out and make a difference in your own unique way.
Handle comparisons with ease, even when others aren't the best.
Listen To this Podcast for more info!
Video Podcast
5-3: Learning To SEE Mutual Benefits For Everyone
" Are you interested in doing a business partnership with a WM50+? If you're a WM50+ and you want to mentor younger men / women, but not sure how to best do it, this podcast is a good place to start. What's interesting about them is they can be the best or worst business partners in the world. Michael has decades of experience and Kenny & Luke are just getting started in their own business. "
Leader
Solution?
Mark sees the benefits all three can bring to one another so Mark paints a picture on the benefits they all bring to one another. To do this successfully, it seems there needs to be someone all parties trust and someone who can see the mutual benefits to everyone.
If you listen / watch this podcast and aren't able to connect the dots or see the picture, complete a 3 minute personality survey and someone will reach out to you and help you connect the dots / paint the picture based on your personality.
Summary:
Which of these four shapes would you tend to like the most? A cube, a pyramid, a wavy line or a ball? Which of these four things would cause you the most frustration in any area of life ... Out of Order, Out of Control, Boring / Not Fun, Conflict with others?
If you chose the Ball and/or Conflict with Others, you likely will be the amiable personality. What does that mean? It may mean that one of your strengths might be your concern and compassion for people ... and maybe a weakness you may have is ... well ... your concern and compassion for people. See ... our greatest strength, is often our greatest weakness and our greatest weakness is our greatest strength misapplied. It's taking our strength too far. As we learn more about ourselves ... we better understand others as well.
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5-4: What's Going On In The Backstage?
This group is ... well ... let's just say they are a crazy group!
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